Part 3 of the Stranger Than Fiction Series
Previously: Mamma Mia was more than a family tradition—it was the first golden brick on a road I didn’t even know I was building. That road carried me from fear to center stage. But nothing could prepare me for the hardest test of all.
When life demanded my best performance, the stage wasn’t a theater. It was cancer.

When Life Demands Your Best Performance
I found out I had breast cancer on August 13, 2020. Five years ago, this exact time of year, I was crying nonstop. Picking a doctor wasn’t about bedside manner—it was about survival.
I told Alex, “Run. Run and don’t look back. Trust me, that’s what I’d do if I could.” Julia Roberts had nothing on me. I could’ve been the Runway Cancer Patient.
But I stayed. I found my doctor. I had Alex. And I wrote.
In September, I posted my first piece, To Catch The Cow. A silly photo of me with my mouth wide open, looking like I was about to eat a cow grazing in the background. On the surface it was playful, but it was also my first public announcement: I had cancer.
I was terrified to hit publish. A lot of women don’t have the courage to say it out loud. I made it real with that post. I can be scared and funny and walk you through this, if you want to come along for the ride.
Every week I wrote my raw, unfiltered journey from losing my hair, brain cells, and boobs. And as I posted, I learned to face the music with laughter.
Treatment days meant themed hats and joy boards—collages of photos friends sent me. On my final day of hard chemo, I wore gold lamé pants and white dancing boots. I wasn’t a cancer patient, I was a Dancing Queen.
There was no ceremonial bell to ring, so I downloaded an app and let it chime all the way down the hospital hallway, into the elevator, through the lobby:
“I’m here. I matter. I made it.”
Those words weren’t just in me. They were the start of a celebration that followed me beyond those hospital walls–one that met me back home. In the driveway, the living room, and in the hearts of the people who carried me through every round.
Air Hugs and Bagpipes
When we pulled into the driveway that last day, my stage husband and his wife were waiting—him in a kilt playing bagpipes.
I don’t remember what he played, only the love in the air.
Inside, my family had transformed the house with streamers, decorations, and joy boards marking every round of chemo.
I danced at each station, rang cowbells to Mamma Mia, Dancing Queen, and Waterloo, and did my chemo version of the bows–until I dropped. Then I slept for a month.
Only later did I realize: those weren’t decorations. They were golden bricks. Proof that even in the hardest rehearsal of my life, I kept showing up.
The Golden Brick Road Keeps Expanding
Now I write every week. Unlike the novel I hid behind for 35 years, these stories let me be seen.
My most loyal reader, Nuria, comments every single time. That love is a brick, too.
Here We Go Again (And Again)
Two weeks ago, we headed to Broadway again. The girls groaned, ”How many times do we have to see this?”
Alex said, “This means a lot to your mom.”
And he’s right. Every curtain rise is another golden brick.
This time, waiting in line around the Winter Garden Theater, I met a grandmother with her daughter and granddaughters. We bonded over the same ache: kids leaving.
“That’s why we’re at Mamma Mia,” I said. “There’s never a sad song.”
She laughed. She’d been down this road before. Here we go again.
The Work in Progress Revelation
Here’s what I know now.
There’s no final curtain call. No moment when you’re done mattering.
The golden brick road isn’t about being fearless. That’s for Taylor Swift. For me, it’s about laying one more brick while I’m afraid.
From community theater to cancer treatments, to weekly writing to Broadway curtain calls-every act has been another brick on this golden brick road.
We’re All Still in Dress Rehearsals
So here I am, still in dress rehearsals. Still ringing imaginary bells. Still trusting the voice that whispers: you matter, keep going.
The woman who wanted to bolt from the stage, the one who told Alex to run, the one in chemo boots—she’s still here.
And here’s the revelation it took me this whole series to see: Mamma Mia didn’t just get me on stage—it carried me through cancer. When I couldn’t lay another golden brick, the music carried me until I could.
That’s the power of one silly family tradition, one musical, one song sung again and again. It became my golden brick road when I couldn’t build it myself.
And what I know now is this: there is no final bow. Only bricks, music, and the courage to keep showing up to rehearsals.
And when you don’t have that humor and courage? Life gives it to you, Mamma Mia style!
Thanks for your writing and inspiration.
Thanks for reaching out and letting me know it means something to you! Love to hear from you! xoxo
Mamma Mia, what a Series!!!!! I remember “To Catch the Cow”, the joy boards, themed hats, and bagpipes as if it were yesterday. With grace and wit, you announced your life twist out loud, taking us through a journey that made our twists irrelevant. Using a few of my favorite scientific remedies – play, music, humor, bedside buddies (or boob squad) – you showed us how to get through the grind. No cow bell, no problem. Chime in the app!! You brought it full circle.
The more gratitude you showed at every corner, the more love you received from God. My comments to everyone of your muses were a gift from YOU. They helped me put the next brick on my golden brick road to remind me that “I still got game” 😊
I always tell my tribe, “There are only good days or great days” because any day you wake up is already a good day (like a performance worth celebrating)!! Your humor, courage, and spirit are contagious to the watching world. I’m so blessed to catch your bug every week!! ¡Gracias, Dancing Queen!! I love you so.
Your words are ringing in my ears and resounding in my heart! I’m feeling overjoyed to think of all these years you’ve been a member of my boob squad!!! And “Celebringing life” is still my golden cowbell on my desk as a reminder: to ring that bell and follow that golden brick road. And, especially when I don’t feel like it! Making a good day great is when we get into the most trouble and have the most fun!!! Dancing through it all with you!!! Love you so!!! xoxo